We’ve got all heard of sons saying the Kaddish. What about small children? Surprisingly, even smaller kids do say the Kaddish, and it’s only one of the saddest and shifting experiences to listen to a little child say Kaddish following their father or mother. Although children aren’t qualified to direct the ceremony, they might and are invited to, say the mourner’s prayer. Obviously, very tiny children aren’t capable of saying the Kaddish suitably and aren’t asked to say it whatsoever. They’ll say that if they grow old, in their parent Yartzeit, or anniversary of passing.
What about somebody emotionally broken, such as any autistic or retarded. Can they say Kaddish overly? If they could deal with the job, they do go right ahead and say it. They, as a little, don’t help shape the quorum nor direct the team, but they do depend for Kaddish. In actuality, in light of this, we stipulate a particular Kaddish to them, one following the ceremony, known as “the Orphan’s Kaddish.” This is the Kaddish said following the “Ulainu” prayer.
It’s customary when a small child or someone emotionally poor states that the Kaddish, a grown-up stands to facilitate them over some rough spots until they get the hang of it and can say that the Kaddish with confidence by themselves. Terrific sages in Israel are proven to take some time off to instruct young orphans that the Kaddish and tutor them until they felt prepared to do it independently.
What about girls? Typical Jewish custom is that daughters, big or little, do not recite the Kaddish, even though there’s extensive literature in the Halachik response discussing indeed why not, and when even they ought to say the Kaddish.
Another, but related concern, is there are guaranteed to be young men and women in the synagogue who will make a joke out of the (uncommon) scene of a woman reciting the Kaddish. Both these concerns are sure none of her error, but they serve to undermine the uniqueness of the synagogue services.